Last night, as I was spending some chill time with some of my friends (Imee, Sandra, Arjo) at Jamba Juice (Bonifacio High Street) I have stumbled upon a thought that really bothered me. Something that has kept me wondering and that has kept me asking, why, what’s wrong?
The great divide. I mean to address here socially the gap between the upper class citizens and the lower class group which I personally find really pointless per se in the course of all my dealings with both classes, but for purposes of discussion, let’s take this perspective.
Mayaman at Mahirap.
Bakit ba ang mga mayayaman, puros mayayaman lang rin ang kakilala at mga kaibigan nila? At bakit ang mahihirap, mahihirap lang rin ang lagi nilang kasama at kabonding?
Is it because the upper class people are too mayabang? Or is it because the lower class people are just over sensitive and usually possesses low self-esteem over things they think that’s too much for them to handle? Sometimes it’s not all about money, it’s not all about how much you have and how much you are willing to spend; everyday is an investment, being with the right people is what matters, being with “friends” is all that you should ever care about everytime you spend time with them; hindi naman ito laro ng payabangan kasi na sa tuwing magkikita kayo ay palakihan kayo ng nagagastos!
That’s Arjo! And when I say Arjo, I mean to say Juan Carlos Campo Atayde! The son of one of showbiz’ greatest asset, Ms. Sylvia Sanchez. Obviously, let’s take him for example; he grew up pretty well-off. He can literally have all the material things he wants in life, but but but, this is not the point here! We’re not talking about money or assets here, we’re talking about my friend and that no matter how much he has or how much he doesn’t have, he will always be Arjo to me; sans everything.
Me and @deydey_miyo
Ano ang gusto kong sabihin? Wala sa pera yan. Nasa tao yan. Ang mahihirap ay mahihirap lang din ang laging kasama dahil hindi sila gumagawa ng paraan upang tulungan ang kanilang sarili na managinip at mangarap kasabay ng mga taong hindi pa nakaranas ng hirap o ang tinatawag nating lahat na mga “mayayaman.”
Ako, in my engagements with these people, I’ve only wanted one thing. I want to bring them all together because they’re my friends. I want the world to be smaller for us all, that we know each other not only by names but by heart and soul for at the end of the day when judgment befalls upon us all, material things in life will not add up to the worth of a person.
Hindi mayabang ang mga mayayaman. Oo, may iba talagang pinasok na ng ATM machine ang mga ulo, pero hindi lahat naman kagaya nila. Tao rin sila, nagkataon lang talaga na masuwerte silang ipinanganak sa mundong ito. Kaibiganin mo, malay mo matuto ka ng mga bagay sa kanila na makakatulong sa pangarap mo at siyempre, matuto rin sila ng mga bagay sa’yo na magpapanatili sa kanila bilang isang mabuting tao na handang tumulong sa mga nangangailangan. Pride is something that will not get you anywhere, get rid of it immediately.
Joel and Achie! 🙂 7 years of friendship and counting. Yes, you heard it right! 7 years! They’re already my bestest friends, we’ve known each other since 1st year college, we’ve lived under the same roof (school dorm) for 4 years and had already a thousand or more arguments that tested us over and over again, but we just always end up being together at the end of every day. 🙂
Joel San Antonio Pangan is part of the Pangan clan of Pampanga. Needless to say, if we talk about assets and all, there is no doubt that theirs is just impossibly filthy, but this doesn’t make Joel any special than all my other friends. What actually makes him special and all is the fact that he is Joel to us and that he will always be that hilarious forgot-to-grow-up kid to his Achie Jamie and I (he’s older than me! HAHA!). Jamie Lyn Formaran Tan on the other hand is the “Oh this Cantonese girl!” =)) She is half-Pinoy and half-Chinese who grew up in Hong Kong. She just went here for her college studies in order to shorten the time it would take her to finish. 🙂 Let’s not talk about her assets anymore, it’s not important.
Having said all that, I think the great divide between social classes is rather made-up than existing. It’s just all in the mind of people and how they think about certain circumstances in their life. I for example is a complete no one compared to my friends, I’m simply Ely Concord Ledesma Delos Santos III whose name doesn’t even ring a bell, but what I’m always gearing towards for is the fact that I am Ely or Ely Concord to the different people I meet. My family name is not important for I don’t think it would add any substance to the character of a person. Nasa utak lang ang mayaman-mahirap na yan.
Kung gusto mong maging mayaman, pumunta ka sa mga lugar kung saan tumatambay ang mga mayayaman sabi nga nila. Huwag kang magpanggap though na mayaman ka, just be yourself and enjoy the ride. Chill lang, walang sosyal-sosyalan na required kasi kung feeling mo required yun baka naman maging social-climber ka niyan. HAHA! Learn the ways of the rich. Understand the way their minds work and how they deal with things. Don’t get intimidated. Carry yourself well. Be confident enough to speak out and be heard. Tao lang rin sila. Magpalibre ka! JOKE! HAHA!
me and @akikoVsolon
Anyways, I’m saying all these because I want to really highlight these people in my life who over and over again made me think of the gap between the mahirap and the mayaman in our society. We should be helping each other out instead of tagging or stereotyping people. We do not have the right to condemn or degrade anyone just because they’re less fortunate than us. What they have or how much they have does not make them less of a person. Kilalanin niyo muna ang tao bago niyo husgahan dahil sa oras na inyo silang pinandirihan dahil mahirap sila, tandaan niyo, that very exact moment is also the moment na mas nagiging kadiri kayo compared to them.
What is important here is that you’re true to each other and that your pagkakaibigan or friendship is not defined by material things or things that may sooner or later fade away! Hindi importante ang pera dahil ang mga tunay na kaibigan, hindi mo kailangang bilhin!
Achie and @imthebamb (grandson of Bohol’s former governor)
Never say you’re not rich, just say I’m not ‘yet’ rich. 🙂 And yes, I’m my friends’ biggest fan! 🙂 Pinagyayabang ko sila not because of what they have or who they are, but because they are just the bestest people I ever came across with in my life! 🙂