Nightclubs Are Dying Because I Don’t Party Anymore

It was just like any ordinary night out of the house, but it felt completely different…

 

I took a step back from our table and carefully watched my friends drown themselves in loud music, blinding lights, and thick smoke coming from the fog machine. Everybody was dancing like there’s no tomorrow. I stood still and let my eyes wonder around the dark place I always thought to have brought me happiness; I figured there was something wrong this time. I felt so empty and alone and no matter what I do or who I talk to, the feeling never really went away…

 

I’m a millennial, I love going out with friends and spend some time with them. We hang out in restaurants, in coffee shops, and in nightclubs. Well, most of the time in nightclubs. We were undisciplined unstoppable, we always had fun all night long and we did it all together. We were always there for each other that partying already became a crucial component in our friendship. Nobobdy wants to miss out, not me…

 

I continued standing still ignoring all those who pass by pushing me from side to side. At that very exact moment, I dropped every care I had with the world. I was alone, empty, and completely unaware on why I was even there… I looked at my friends again, observed their every move, and counted the amount of alcohol they flushed inside their bodies. I didn’t know these people, worse, I came to realize that I didn’t know anything about them at all…

 

I went home with a heavy heart and still slightly tipsy from all the alcohol I consumed. I thought about my reason for being there and listed them down… It was a very difficult task to do… being totally honest with myself for the very first time…

 

1. I tried to belong

I didn’t feel any less, but I gave in more to my what ifs… What if my life was like theirs? What if I was like them? What if I partied hard enough that people would think I’m also cool? And all the other what ifs I had in life that in the end didn’t really exist. It was all in my mind and it was self-destructive. I realized I just had to stop and when I finally did, things just got better.

You don’t need to belong because each and everyone is unique in our own ways. Our worth in other people’s lives does not entirely depend on how we think we make them feel, but on simply how we as a person turns out to be (better or worse) when we are around them. Trying to fit in is the worst thing people do to themselves because in doing so, they forget that we all have our own place in the world; our own purpose… and that is what we all should be concerning ourselves of…

 

2. I tried searching for happiness.

Everybody does this and it’s normal. The search for happiness is a never ending journey for those who really don’t know where to find it. I had my fair share of the struggle before. I once thought that I would find it in the presence of people who simply wants to be happy, but life of course is not always as easy as it sounds.

Happiness is a state of mind and you do not search for it, you define it. It will be you who will tell yourself that you are happy and no one can ever tell you that you’re wrong. We cannot depend our happiness on the things we see around us; it is merely a result of how we as a person defines it in our own unique way. Our job is not to look for it, but to harness it, to declare it, and tell the world that she can f*ck our life all she wants, but she can never mess with the happiness we all have inside of us.

 

3. I was trying to escape.

For some reason, I was trying to escape reality. We all do… I ran away from it as much as I could, but it always gets me. The world’s a shitty place. It will just get the best of you and can turn you into the worst version of yourself. You need to be tough to battle these forces; unfortunately for me, I was just too weak back then. I was too weak and scared to face my realities because I held on so tight to the ideal life I thought I had. I was wrong. Very wrong. Life is indeed what you make it and there’s no way of faking the outcomes. I may have escaped it a couple of times with a few tequila shots, but once the glitz and glamour of a good imaginary life subsides; it’s time you say hello again to your fears and insecurities…

Never escape your realities. They are there to toughen you up because as you grow older, the world just doesn’t get any nicer. Enjoy the journey, enjoy the ride! Life is a roller coaster ride, have all the fun you want when you’re up and have all the courage you need when you’re down.

 

Times have changed and it makes me so glad seeing all the other millennials like me, don’t party anymore. We may all have our different sets of reasons, but there is one thing for certain, we are better people now who realized that the expensive beers we bought and the long lines we endured aren’t just what makes life an awesome adventure!

Don’t get me wrong, I found really awesome people as well in nightclubs. People just like me who was once lost. We all became good friends afterwards, but there are still those of course who were left inside the bar and carry on their struggle of putting meaning to their lives.

 

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With my Frontline Productions, Inc. family!

 

Party for a reason. Make it a special celebration of something. Make it count. Be with your friends; those people who accept and love you for who you are. Not everyone will like you and it’s totally okay; remember that you don’t like other people too sometimes. Never escape your realities; learn to live life in between the pressure of reaching your dreams and conquering your nows… 🙂

 

Now I have 2 questions for you…

 

What’s your reason for partying?

 

and

 

Kelan ang next party? 😛

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